D and his ex settled. They came to an agreement about Timesharing with stepdaughter. It’s odd to me how it ended. She agreed to everything. Everything and then some.
So, now we will be the “primary” home. Stepdaughter will reside with us and visit mom’s house. This, I believe, is the best possible outcome for stepdaughter. She wil have stability and routine at our home that she was not getting at mom’s house. Mom was unable to provide the consistency that we are. Yet, I’m still reeling and wondering if it’s the right thing. Mom gave up more time than we expected.
As frustrating as her mom has been in the past couple of years for D and I, she’s still stepdaughter’s mom. I know she is not mentally healthy and she shows, at the very least, some traits of a narcissistic personality disorder. I believe it is best for stepdaughter to be in a different environment so she can learn healthy interactions and boundaries, but I also believe that she needs her mom.
I have said many times during this recent court activity, if I could have one wish granted it would be for stepdaughter’s mom to get herself together, get a job and a home for the two of them and be a stable parent for stepdaughter. I would like nothing more than to see her being a successful parent. Truly. I know that’s what would be best for stepdaughter….to have two healthy parents working together to take care of her.
A Stepmother's Journey 